It’s always important to take the time to treat yourself and get to know yourself better, no matter what stage of life you are in – whether you’re a single, in a relationship, or having a complicated situation. It is only through a solo date night that you will be able to accomplish this goal.
Having a relationship isn’t the only thing that matters in life. Even if you are part of one, this does not mean that you will change or that you will not be able to enjoy your time apart. Having a solo date night is the perfect way to celebrate all the things that make you who you are. And what’s even better is that you can make it whatever you want it to be if you want to.
What Is A Solo Date?
It can be defined as a form of self-care conducted in the style of a date, but in the style of a solo date. The only difference this time is that you are on your own. Due to this fact, there’s no awkwardness in deciding what to do to please both parties, since you are the only one in question. That has the added benefit of making the decision much simpler.
It could be going for a walk, going out for dinner, or heading to the cinema or even going to an afternoon tea with a book and some cake in a cafe. There is nothing wrong with treating yourself to something that you enjoy doing as long as it is something you love to do. When things are going well in a relationship, there is a sense of guilt about doing things apart from one another.
There is a possibility that you may worry that it means you do not love each other as much as you should and that you should spend every minute possible with each other. Obviously, that’s not the case. It’s actually very healthy to do things in a separate way, and it’s actually very important to do so.
Sure, you probably got together because you have similar interests, but that does not mean that you have interests that are exactly the same as each other. On a solo date, you can enjoy a hobby or activity that the other person doesn’t enjoy, so you don’t have to stop doing it altogether because you have a solo date.
In addition, even if you are not in a relationship, why should that stop you from having all the fun of dating? It is not just for new couples or those at the beginning of a relationship that going out for dinner or to bars is an option. It would be nice to treat yourself to your favourite dish from a local restaurant, or to that cocktail you’ve been dying to try ever since you saw it advertised.
Getting Over The Barrier
There is one thing that stops a lot of people from doing this, and that is they think they will be judged for being on their own.9In spite of the fact that you may get the occasional glance or even someone asking if you have been stood up, these occurrences are is very rare. You won’t be bothered at all if you appear to be on a mission or if you bring along a book or a laptop as a distraction item, so that it’s clear you’re there with a purpose.
It is true that the thought is daunting at times, but it can also be exhilarating at other times. In other words, you will have a chance to live out your dream of being a main character instead of just supporting in the background. Taking the path you want to take is not going to stop you from doing what you really want to do if you want to do it.
You should go somewhere where you feel comfortable or where you might see someone you know on your first solo date. If you are nervous about the idea of planning something, you don’t have to plan something that’s particularly lengthy. There is also the option of attaching a solo date to another activity as another way to go solo.
Imagine you have gone to a cafe to work – after you have completed your work, stick around for a while and grab yourself some Victoria Sponge and a cup of hot chocolate. As long as you have been working there for some time already, no one will bat an eyelid if you are there already.
There are a lot of things in life that are scary, including this! After you have done it, you will be itching to do it again as soon as you have done it.
Taking Myself On A Date
It was just this week that I practiced what I preached and booked myself a ticket to the theatre in order to practice what I preached. I was able to get a discounted ticket because I was a volunteer there, and as I am a huge fan of musicals, this was an offer I could not refuse. It turned out that my boyfriend was not interested in going to the event at all, so I went on my own.
It was very important to me that I left work straight away so that I could even get some dinner before the show began. In order to avoid getting lost, I went to my favorite restaurant, which was somewhere familiar to me, and I knew it was a good place to eat. I didn’t feel any confused eyes watching me as it was a random Tuesday in December, so I didn’t feel any confused eyes watching me as it was not particularly busy.
In the end, I ate what I wanted to eat. Neither we nor any of our friends felt the need to eat at a certain place or to order a certain dish because of subconscious peer pressure. Due to the fact that I was on my own, I was able to get two starters instead of a main course, something I would not have done if I had not been alone.
In the end, I was able to finish up without any hassle and enjoyed myself thoroughly, taking the opportunity to people-watch as well as enjoy Cardiff Bay’s Christmas decorations.
Due to the fact that I spend a lot of time in the theatre, it is a very safe place for me to be. I don’t think I felt out of place or uncomfortable at any point during the event despite sitting amongst hundreds of people who I didn’t know. It was no problem for me to squeeze through to treat myself to an interval ice cream treat when I squeezed through the row.
My experience had been really enjoyable, and I was sure that I would enjoy it even more in the future. Neither there was any forced conversation nor was there any deliberation about how to be or what to do. Being able to do whatever I wanted, how I wanted, and when I wanted was a lot more liberating than I had thought it would be.
Despite the fact that it does not mean that I won’t ever be interested in going on a two-person date again, it did make me appreciate my own company more than ever before. There is nothing better than a solo date!
There is no limit to what solo dating can be, as long as you do it alone. It can be anything that you want it to be. Here are 10 of our favorite ideas for solo dates that we think you will enjoy.
1. Go for a hike.
On a solo hike, you can take in the sounds and sights of nature as well as take in some fresh air. If you don’t know where to go hiking, there are plenty of websites and apps that can help you find the perfect trail nearby if you are not sure where to start. Whenever you feel the need to listen to your favorite music, you can take your headphones with you.
2. Visit a museum.
Whether you’re interested in art or history, spend an afternoon exploring one of your local museums. It is also important to keep in mind that many museums offer free or discounted admission on certain days, so be sure to check their website before you visit them. Throughout the course, you will learn about a wide variety of topics as well.
3. Attend a concert.
No matter whether you are a fan of classical music or you are a fan of rock ‘n’ roll, attending a concert is a great way to spend an evening on your own. You might feel awkward at first but don’t let that stop you – just focus on the music, get your dancing shoes on and enjoy the show.
4. Go shopping.
Take advantage of the peace and quiet and do some much-needed retail therapy. Whether you’re looking for new clothes, shoes, or home decor, spending some time alone at the mall can be therapeutic. An added bonus is that you can look around the shops at your own pace.
5. Set time aside to read.
It is important to take the time to relax with a good book every now and then. If you are looking for something new, then try out one of this year’s bestsellers if you are looking for something new. If you like, you can even do this one at home if you want to. Even if it isn’t a “date,” it can still be a “date,” just with yourself and a book, and there is no need to leave the house. Make sure you put your phone on airplane mode so that you don’t get distracted while you are working.
6. See a movie.
There is nothing like sitting in front of the big screen and watching a good movie. The next time you find yourself near a theater, head there and watch your favorite movie without having to worry about talking during the show or fighting over the armrests. Moreover, you will be able to decide exactly what you want to watch at whatever time is convenient for you.
7. Get coffee or tea.
You can start your day off right with a cup of coffee or tea from your favorite cafe in the morning. It would be great if you could also treat yourself to a pastry or bagel if you would like to make a morning of it. You should try to enjoy the experience of being alone as much as possible, and try to be present in the moment.
8. Take yourself out to dinner.
There is something liberating about enjoying a meal on your own-you can take your time, order whatever you want, and people-watch to your heart’s content while enjoying your meal. If you want to make your night even more special, you can even dress up in whatever makes you feel good if you want to make it an extra special one.
9. Go for a drive.
There are times when getting behind the wheel and hitting the open road is one of the best ways to clear your head – even if you don’t know where you are going. Enjoy the freedom of the open road while listening to your favorite tunes on your favorite stereo. There is no doubt that this can be a great way to spend some time thinking and reflecting.
10. Do some people-watching at the park.
It is the perfect time of year for a walk in the park, if you need an excuse to get outside. Whenever there is a lot going on around you, people-watching is always more fun, and you never know who (or what) you are going to see if you watch closely enough. It is a great way to get some fresh air and get some exercise at the same time. Furthermore, you will be able to enjoy your solo date while watching the world go by from the comfort of your bubble.